PHILADELPHIA (JSC) — Good Friday morning, Everyone! It’s time, once again, for the JSC Words of Wisdom, a.k.a. #JSCWOW. As always, this will drop every Friday morning. Feel free to share this on your favorite social media outlet with the hashtag — #JSCWOW.
This will be a quickie this week but in these trying times in this country, this one is definitely needed. Point blank: People these days are assholes. Between social media, our work places, our political discourse, and just general interaction on the streets, people are the literal worst right now. The sad thing is that it really doesn’t have to be that way. In the very first edition of #JSCWOW, I talked about the value of Paying it Forward. At its base, simply treating people well plays a big role in doing that.
When I moved East from Michigan (first to New Jersey, and later to Philadelphia) nearly three years ago, one thing I used to hear a lot from people in Detroit was “Are you sure you’ll like it out there? People on the East Coast are assholes.” or “You’re moving to the East Coast? I’ve heard they’re really rude out there.” Let me be honest with y’all back in the Midwest: the people out here have been (largely) great to me, especially in Philadelphia. They have been very welcoming and really nice. Philly has this reputation of being mean vicious, mean, and angry. Particularly Eagles fans. That’s not to say some of that rep hasn’t been earned. But at its essence, Philadelphia’s often mocked moniker of “The City of Brotherly Love (and Sisterly Affection)” is actually legit. People are good here. While they may swear — a lot — and may not always greet you with a smile, there are a lot of sincerely good people in this area.
The thing about 2017, and truthfully, this started a few years ago, is that people are terrible to each other. This is not some commentary on today’s political climate — oh, but don’t think that hasn’t played a role in how shitty we are to each other — this is a general state. Just go into any comment section, or scan Twitter, or see how we treat each other in general conversation. This week’s #JSCWOW is simple: Be good to people.
It doesn’t take much to be nice to someone, contrary to popular belief. The energy it takes to shoot someone a dirty look, or make a crass, insensitive, or offensive comment online, or just simply be an unpleasant person can be used to make your day or someone else’s day better. Also, you can be critical of someone and be respectful of them. I know. That seems shocking, considering most people’s default setting these days is “Mean as Hell.” But it’s true. “Keeping it Real” and being an asshole are not mutually exclusive. Just think about how we talk to each other in a given day. We come from a place of anger and negativity. We’ve grown to expect the worst and when you do that, you get the worst coming back at you. It’s all about changing that energy. Start small. Something as simple as a “Good Morning” to someone you care about can make both of your days better.
Also, your standing and position mean nothing if you’re a bad person. I work in an industry where a lot of high profile people are outwardly great, but once the mic and camera is off, they’re terrible. If you’re fortunate enough to have a big enough voice and personality that people dig you, take a second and give that positive energy back. As the quote above says “You’re never too big to be nice to someone.” You don’t have to walk around smiling all the time or glad-handing, but simply be good to those around you. It works wonders.
In closing, I came up in a household where my mother would treat guests like family. She will offer you food, or a drink, and almost everyone gets a hug. It’s her way of making you feel welcome. It’s why I’m a hugger to this day. I’ll have some pretty tough and trying days, but something as simple as shooting a text or a phone call to someone or simply saying hello to someone or helping someone can do wonders for not just them but you. This country — and world — is getting meaner, nastier, and more selfish by the day. In closing, there are so many things you can do to be successful. One of the easiest of them all is four simple words that can dictate where you go and how long you stay there:
Don’t Be a Dick.
Until Next Time, That’s The Way It Is. Friday, July 21, 2017.
Take Care, God Bless, Always Dare to Be Different, and G.O.M.A.B. Σ