[Updated] Father Knows Best: Why Dad STILL Deserves His Day…


♣ The Toughest Jobs are often the most Thankless…

“Of all the rocks upon which we build our lives, we are reminded … that family is the most important. And we are called to recognize and honor how critical every father is to that foundation. They are teachers and coaches. They are mentors and role models. They are examples of success and the men who constantly push us toward it.”

— President Barack Obama

DETROIT (JSC) — On Father’s Day 2010, I wrote what became one of my most controversial blogs ever. It was written due in large part to my irritation and disgust at how Father’s Day was being overrun by bitterness from single mothers demanding special “recognition” on Father’s Day as well as their incessant whining about “deadbeat dads” and constantly diminishing of the role of fathers, MEN, in their kid’s lives. When I wrote that blog (which you will see in its updated entirety below the page break), I expectedly got a lot of angry blowback from “offended” single moms who tried in vain to insist that they are on equal footing as fathers and that I’m just “sexist” and “angry” and blah, blah, blah…basically trying to do what they always do to men who dare to defend themselves: Shout them down. Since then, there has been much more noise made by not only Fathers, but married women and other single mothers over stopping this disrespect of Father’s Day. I’ve even had a few single and formerly single moms admit to me off record that I was right. While I have no kids of my own, I’m a man who is grateful to have my dad around. That blog was as much about defending his honor as anything else. I will not “agree to disagree” about this. Fathers are as important (and in a lot of cases, MORE important) than Mothers. A few things have changed since 2010, but the message will not. Thanks again and Let’s Go. Continue reading [Updated] Father Knows Best: Why Dad STILL Deserves His Day…

Father Knows Best: Why Dad Deserves His Day…(JSC, 6/20/2010)


This was originally posted on June 20, 2010, ie last Father’s Day. It was written as a tribute to my dad (and all other MEN who either are fathers or play that role), but it was also a very pointed message toward Single Mothers who almost arrogantly insist that they be “honored” or “recognized” on Father’s Day, as well as insinuate that they can do both roles. Speaking as a man who had a Father in his home, you can’t. The year that has passed has only strengthened my stance on this matter, BTW. Here you go.

♣ The Toughest Jobs are often the most Thankless…♣ “There’s so much negative imagery of black fatherhood. I’ve got tons of friends that are doing the right thing by their kids, and doing the right thing as a father — and how come that’s not as newsworthy?” — Will Smith (No Relation…sadly) SOUTHFIELD, Mich. — It’s a warm and quiet early summer evening on the northwest side of Detroit. It’s the rare quiet and peaceful neighborhood in the c … Read More

via Jay Scott Confidential

Father Knows Best: Why Dad Deserves His Day…(JSC, 6/20/2010)


This was originally posted on June 20, 2010, ie last Father’s Day. It was written as a tribute to my dad (and all other MEN who either are fathers or play that role), but it was also a very pointed message toward Single Mothers who almost arrogantly insist that they be “honored” or “recognized” on Father’s Day, as well as insinuate that they can do both roles. Speaking as a man who had a Father in his home, you can’t. The year that has passed has only strengthened my stance on this matter, BTW. Here you go.

♣ The Toughest Jobs are often the most Thankless…♣ "There's so much negative imagery of black fatherhood. I've got tons of friends that are doing the right thing by their kids, and doing the right thing as a father — and how come that's not as newsworthy?" — Will Smith (No Relation…sadly) SOUTHFIELD, Mich. — It's a warm and quiet early summer evening on the northwest side of Detroit. It's the rare quiet and peaceful neighborhood in the c … Read More

via Jay Scott Confidential

No Apologies: My Take on the Black Class War…


♣ Discrimination is a hellhound that gnaws at Negroes in every waking moment of their lives to remind them that the lie of their inferiority is accepted as truth in the society dominating them.

— Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

DETROIT (JSC) — In the 5½ months I was largely AWOL from this blog, a whole lot of stuff happened. I can’t even go through an entire rewind of it all. I could go into the tomfoolery that was Donald Trump demanding to see the President’s birth certificate (never mind that anyone with half a brain and a 10th grade education, had seen it three years ago). I could go into the subsequent killing of terror mastermind Osama bin Laden after he was on the run, and I use that term loosely, for 10 years. I could go the sports route and talk about the NFL lockout, which threatens to torpedo part or all of the 2011 NFL season. Hell, I could always go to an oldie but goodie and talk about Detroit. But one story that really jumped out at me that I didn’t get a chance to touch on back in March is the shit storm that jumped off when Jalen Rose, and later Jimmy King (of University of Michigan “Fab Five” fame), singled out all black players recruited by and playing at Duke, particularly Grant Hill, as being “Uncle Toms”. Rose and King got very chesty about this, until the backlash punched them in the face. The full quote asserted that apparently there was something inherently unfair about a school choosing to recruit black players who can not only play, but are model citizens and strong students. The Nerve of Duke! Far be it from me to ever defend Duke basketball, but if I ran a program, I’d do the same thing. Well, the “Uncle Tom” alarm has been sounded again with the barbs being thrown at a familiar target. I’m here to say: Enough is Enough! Let’s Go.


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Mastering Destiny: The Road to Redemption…


♠ Redemption comes to those who wait, forgiveness is the key. ♠

— Tom Petty

SOUTHFIELD, Mich. (JSC) — I often bristle when I hear people, most of them under the age of 30, say with their chest puffed out and head held arrogantly high: “I live life with no regrets!” Immediately, I think two things to myself. First: You must not have a lot of friends and your family must secretly hate the ground you walk on. Secondarily: You’re either a ruthless motherfucker, or you are just a posturing asshole. For most of the last decade, I have lived with the festering, angering, mind-blowing regret and guilt over having wasted six of my life at Michigan State University being an abject knucklehead and waste of space. My screwing around during my first 2½ years in East Lansing basically set me back nearly a full 10 years. I have always regretted pissing away those early years at MSU. It gnaws at my soul that because I thought that my shit smelled like the finest spring water with a twist of lemon, I missed out on numerous opportunities while my peers cashed in. I thought that I blew my chance to do what I always wanted to do with my life: Be a working journalist. When I graduated from Michigan State on May 2, 2003, I had no idea where I was headed and what the next eight years would bring. Those next eight years are what will make tomorrow afternoon all the better. The word of the day is: Redemption. Let’s Go.

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Father Knows Best: Why Dad Deserves His Day…


The Toughest Jobs are often the most Thankless…

“There’s so much negative imagery of black fatherhood. I’ve got tons of friends that are doing the right thing by their kids, and doing the right thing as a father — and how come that’s not as newsworthy?”

— Will Smith (No Relation…sadly)

SOUTHFIELD, Mich. — It’s a warm and quiet early summer evening on the northwest side of Detroit. It’s the rare quiet and peaceful neighborhood in the city where people sit on their porches and in their backyards and can relax and just watch the day wind down. On a red bricked porch on the middle house on the block sits a man in his late 40s, his teenaged son, and a dog (a Cocker Spaniel, to be exact). As they sit side-by-side on the porch, each with a can of Faygo Orange in hand, nary a word is said until a rather disheveled looking gentleman, reeking of Jack Daniel’s and shame, walks down the street and asks to cut his grass for some money. The man quickly says “that’s what I’ve got him (points to the teen) for.” As the smelly gentleman heads up the street, the man calmly looks at the Teen and says: “Jason, remember this: Crackheads are like stray cats. You feed them and their ass is never gonna leave you alone.” Words of wisdom from my Dad. Let’s Go. Continue reading Father Knows Best: Why Dad Deserves His Day…

Growing Pains: Words of Wisdom from a Veteran Grown-Up


♦ 30 is NOT the “New 20”. It’s The “New 35″…♦

“Maturity is a High Price to pay for Growing Up”

— Sir Tom Stoppard, British Playwright.

Before I get rolling on this, I apologize for going nearly three full months w/out updating this thing. I have been bombarded with so many things that this blog somehow got lost in the shuffle, which is completely unacceptable. So for you, what few consistent readers of this blog that I actually have, I greatly apologize and Welcome back.

Well, now that I got that shit out of the way, let’s get down to business.

DETROIT — It is June 10th, which means college graduations have already gone down and high school graduates are springing up left and right. First and foremost, Congratulations to all the new High School and College grads, with a special shout going to all the new Alumni of Renaissance High School, Michigan State University, and Wayne State University (BTW: “Alumni” is plural. “Alumnus” is the singular form) . This means there are a lot of new people entering an entirely new world, especially if you are from Detroit because about 75% of you HS grads probably have never been outside of Detroit for more than 5 days at a time. As much as my family traveled during my childhood, including: New York, Miami (3 times), Orlando (twice), Tampa (Busch Gardens), Los Angeles, San Francisco, Oakland, Atlanta (twice), Philly, and Nashville, I never really got to know any place other than Detroit. So when I hit Michigan State’s campus for the first time as a student on August 28, 1997, it was a legit culture shock to me. Bluntly stated: I wasn’t used to being around THAT many White people. That was just the start of my growth, and today, I am hear to impart my wisdom of 30+ years of living on you youngsters. Let’s Go.
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