[Updated] Father Knows Best: Why Dad STILL Deserves His Day…


♣ The Toughest Jobs are often the most Thankless…

“Of all the rocks upon which we build our lives, we are reminded … that family is the most important. And we are called to recognize and honor how critical every father is to that foundation. They are teachers and coaches. They are mentors and role models. They are examples of success and the men who constantly push us toward it.”

— President Barack Obama

DETROIT (JSC) — On Father’s Day 2010, I wrote what became one of my most controversial blogs ever. It was written due in large part to my irritation and disgust at how Father’s Day was being overrun by bitterness from single mothers demanding special “recognition” on Father’s Day as well as their incessant whining about “deadbeat dads” and constantly diminishing of the role of fathers, MEN, in their kid’s lives. When I wrote that blog (which you will see in its updated entirety below the page break), I expectedly got a lot of angry blowback from “offended” single moms who tried in vain to insist that they are on equal footing as fathers and that I’m just “sexist” and “angry” and blah, blah, blah…basically trying to do what they always do to men who dare to defend themselves: Shout them down. Since then, there has been much more noise made by not only Fathers, but married women and other single mothers over stopping this disrespect of Father’s Day. I’ve even had a few single and formerly single moms admit to me off record that I was right. While I have no kids of my own, I’m a man who is grateful to have my dad around. That blog was as much about defending his honor as anything else. I will not “agree to disagree” about this. Fathers are as important (and in a lot of cases, MORE important) than Mothers. A few things have changed since 2010, but the message will not. Thanks again and Let’s Go. Continue reading [Updated] Father Knows Best: Why Dad STILL Deserves His Day…

Father Knows Best: Why Dad Deserves His Day…(JSC, 6/20/2010)


This was originally posted on June 20, 2010, ie last Father’s Day. It was written as a tribute to my dad (and all other MEN who either are fathers or play that role), but it was also a very pointed message toward Single Mothers who almost arrogantly insist that they be “honored” or “recognized” on Father’s Day, as well as insinuate that they can do both roles. Speaking as a man who had a Father in his home, you can’t. The year that has passed has only strengthened my stance on this matter, BTW. Here you go.

♣ The Toughest Jobs are often the most Thankless…♣ “There’s so much negative imagery of black fatherhood. I’ve got tons of friends that are doing the right thing by their kids, and doing the right thing as a father — and how come that’s not as newsworthy?” — Will Smith (No Relation…sadly) SOUTHFIELD, Mich. — It’s a warm and quiet early summer evening on the northwest side of Detroit. It’s the rare quiet and peaceful neighborhood in the c … Read More

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Father Knows Best: Why Dad Deserves His Day…(JSC, 6/20/2010)


This was originally posted on June 20, 2010, ie last Father’s Day. It was written as a tribute to my dad (and all other MEN who either are fathers or play that role), but it was also a very pointed message toward Single Mothers who almost arrogantly insist that they be “honored” or “recognized” on Father’s Day, as well as insinuate that they can do both roles. Speaking as a man who had a Father in his home, you can’t. The year that has passed has only strengthened my stance on this matter, BTW. Here you go.

♣ The Toughest Jobs are often the most Thankless…♣ "There's so much negative imagery of black fatherhood. I've got tons of friends that are doing the right thing by their kids, and doing the right thing as a father — and how come that's not as newsworthy?" — Will Smith (No Relation…sadly) SOUTHFIELD, Mich. — It's a warm and quiet early summer evening on the northwest side of Detroit. It's the rare quiet and peaceful neighborhood in the c … Read More

via Jay Scott Confidential

Father Knows Best: Why Dad Deserves His Day…


The Toughest Jobs are often the most Thankless…

“There’s so much negative imagery of black fatherhood. I’ve got tons of friends that are doing the right thing by their kids, and doing the right thing as a father — and how come that’s not as newsworthy?”

— Will Smith (No Relation…sadly)

SOUTHFIELD, Mich. — It’s a warm and quiet early summer evening on the northwest side of Detroit. It’s the rare quiet and peaceful neighborhood in the city where people sit on their porches and in their backyards and can relax and just watch the day wind down. On a red bricked porch on the middle house on the block sits a man in his late 40s, his teenaged son, and a dog (a Cocker Spaniel, to be exact). As they sit side-by-side on the porch, each with a can of Faygo Orange in hand, nary a word is said until a rather disheveled looking gentleman, reeking of Jack Daniel’s and shame, walks down the street and asks to cut his grass for some money. The man quickly says “that’s what I’ve got him (points to the teen) for.” As the smelly gentleman heads up the street, the man calmly looks at the Teen and says: “Jason, remember this: Crackheads are like stray cats. You feed them and their ass is never gonna leave you alone.” Words of wisdom from my Dad. Let’s Go. Continue reading Father Knows Best: Why Dad Deserves His Day…

Separate But Unequal: The Quandary of Black Women & Marriage


♥ Hell Hath No Fury…♥

“This is what marriage really means: helping one another to reach the full status of being persons, responsible beings who do not run away from life”

— Paul Tournier

DETROIT — I Love Black Women. Period. My Mom is a Black Woman. I Love Her. There is something about an intelligent, well-spoken, well-versed, hard working, confident, Nubian Goddess. From her walk, to her attitude, to her ability to understand me, there is nothing more impressive than a Black Woman. Now that we’ve established this, I feel that, as a black man, I can chip in my two cents to why her ass is as single as a $1 bill in my wallet. Lately it has become apparently en vogue, and I don’t mean the R&B group, for there to be all these reports and statistics on why the black woman (more specifically, the “successful” black woman) can’t seem to find a man to marry her. While I’m not some sympathizer like Michael Baisden who will do anything to get women to listen to him, nor am I a self-proclaimed relationship expert like Steve Harvey, this blog is not exactly meant to be a scientific meta-analysis of the plight of our Nubian sisters. I’m not gonna get into the conflated and often overused mantras about black men being the problem (BTW: Essence Magazine’s assessments about black men are, on the low end, 95% F.O.S.). I am gonna shoot straight on what I feel is the problem just from my experience as being a black man having dealt with black women since birth. If you don’t like it, then create your own damn site and do something about it! Let’s Go.

Continue reading Separate But Unequal: The Quandary of Black Women & Marriage